I Said ‘No Worries’ But I Am, In Fact, Worrying

Well, I am polite like that, but also I do not want drama in my life most of the times. Just like Lucas in The Answer is No, my last read.

I will write "no worries" but I am, in fact, worrying.

Do you see what I mean? No worries

Many times, my no worries will come with a smiley emoji - 😊 - This one.

Not this one - 🙂

Because 🙂 this emoji basically says I am offended.

But this applies to people I love, people I want to keep in my life.

If a stranger, or someone who has no business with me of any sort worries me, I make sure they worry too. I am ruthless like that.

Ok let's get back to no worries matter.

The Aftermath

Me: No worries

Also me: Replays the conversation 17 times, overanalyzes tone, and plans 5 backup strategies just in case.

Most of this happens when I taking a bath.

OR

Even better, when I am trying to sleep and a thought will occur at 12:30 am. Why would he/she say that to me?

Why We Do It Anyway

We do it because we’re taught to be nice.

Because conflict feels like chaos.

Because typing “Actually, I don't want it” feels heavier than it should.

Because we don’t want to come across as difficult god forbid.

So we downplay the concern, hit send, and enter a mental courtroom where we’re both the judge and the accused.

The Recovery Phase

Eventually, I talk myself down.

Maybe I nudge the plan gently.

Maybe I send a follow-up like “Hey, quick thing!” to clarify.

Maybe I just suck it up and go through with it, while mentally drafting an essay titled “Why I Need to Stop Saying No Worries When I Am Clearly Worried.”

One day, I hope to stop being this person.

Until then, if you ever get a “no worries” from me… just know, there’s a good chance I’m absolutely worrying.

Anyway. No worries.

Really. It’s fine.

(Cue nervous sweating. Reload Instagram. Pretend to move on.)

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